Calm your mind
We all feel nervous, worried or anxious sometimes. Luckily, there are small steps you can take to calm these feelings.
How can I calm my mind?
Feeling calmer starts with finding the time to tune into your body and mind. Focus on the present, find ways to connect with how you are feeling, and use breathing exercises to feel calmer.
Everyone experiences anxiety differently, so find a tool or activity that gives you the most relief.
You don’t need to be experiencing a high level of anxiety to benefit from Small Steps tools - the whole whānau can use them to improve their wellbeing.
Tools for Calming Your Mind
Here are three tools that can help you feel calmer. They only take a few minutes to complete.
During this exercise, you’ll be guided to identify sensations in your body that you often experience when feeling upset. You can use these as signals to react differently, use a tool, or engage in self-care.
This reflective technique involves slowly breathing in and out to help you feel calmer and more relaxed. This tool is guided by an animated image that inflates and deflates.
During this mindfulness exercise, you’ll be guided by relaxing audio to calmly notice different visual aspects of images and apply this to your surroundings.
What is anxiety?
Anxiety is your body’s natural response to distressing or threatening situations.
When you’re in this type of situation, your body activates its fight-or-flight response to keep you alert, sharpen your reflexes, and prepare your body to either engage (fight) or escape (flight) the threat.
This response is completely natural.
What causes me to feel anxious?
The flight-or-fight response can be triggered by real threats (e.g. money worries), perceived threats (e.g. I'm worried this person doesn't like me), or when a situation reminds you of difficult past experiences (e.g. I'm worried that it might happen again).
Anxiety often stems from issues in your past such as difficulties growing up, disconnection from whānau or whakapapa, or hurtful events.
There are things you can do to help relieve anxiety.
If anxiety becomes overwhelming and affects your quality of life, we recommend you speak to a health professional.
Supporting someone experiencing anxiety
How to support friends and whānau with anxiety?
You could provide practical and emotional support by keeping them company, listening to the thoughts they share or finding activities you both enjoy.
Remember that your role is not to be their therapist, just being there can be enough.
Learn how to be a great listener by practicing Active Listening.
How to help someone having a panic attack?
A panic attack is a sudden episode of extreme anxiety. They come on very quickly and usually don’t last long but can be scary and disorientating.
Panic attacks can make you feel like you can’t breathe, are losing control or might be dying.
Things you can do to help:
- Encourage them to take some deep breaths. You could breathe with them or use the Deep Breathing tool.
- Try some grounding techniques. Ask them to describe things they can see, hear, smell and touch, or try the Mindful Watching tool.
- As they calm down, they might want to talk to you about their thoughts and the panic attack itself.
It can take a while to recover once a panic attack has passed, so it can help to create a supportive environment to relax in until they feel able to go on with their day.
Your Anxiety Resources
Here are some resources that can help you manage anxiety.
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